For some people, that pain is part of the draw - but if you plan on using your jaw much in the hours after wearing a gag, whether for oral sex, talking or eating, you might not want to push it to its limits. Unless you have a superhumanly strong jaw, you’ll probably find that it starts to ache after a few minutes of wearing a gag. There are also ball gags that have holes in them to allow for better airflow.Ĥ) Use Sparingly. A slimmer gag, like the Unbound Bit, is a safer bet. While a classic ballgag is probably the best-known style of gag, it’s not necessarily the safest for beginners, because it can make breathing difficult, especially if your nose is congested from allergies, sickness or sexual arousal (yep, that’s a thing). I promise, taking a pee break or answering the door isn’t as important as making sure your partner stays safe!ģ) Breathe Easy. If you do have to leave the room for some reason while your partner is gagged, just take the gag out and put it back in when you return.
If they start to choke, or their nose suddenly gets congested and they can’t breathe, they need to be able to communicate that to someone so that the situation can be addressed quickly. A person wearing a gag should never be left alone in a room, especially if they’re also in any kind of bondage. It just needs to be something memorable and clearly recognizable that’ll easily get your partner’s attention.Ģ) Supervision Required. Mine is shaking my head back and forth like I’m saying “no,” though I’ve heard of other kinksters dropping a noisy object (like keys) or double-tapping their hand on the bed or on your partner’s body. For that reason, you should pick a “safe-signal” instead - essentially, it’s a non-verbal safeword. Typically, these are unusual and weird-sounding words or phrases that are unlikely to come up for any other reason or to be mistaken for sexy sounds, like “firetruck” or “ Tucker Carlson.” (Or, I dunno, “fire Tucker Carlson.”)īut when there’s a gag in your mouth, it can be hard to get any words out, especially in the heat of the moment. You’ve probably heard of the practice of choosing a safeword before doing a kink scene - it’s a mutually agreed-upon word that, when spoken by anyone involved, will call an immediate end to the action.
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But before we get into what makes this particular gag so great, let’s go over some gag safety basics… How to Use a Gag Safelyġ) Pick a Safe-Signal. With all of that in mind, I was intrigued when I saw that the sex toy company Unbound had released a gag of their own (called the Bit), which isn’t only gorgeous but practical, too. For instance, while I know lots of people who find it embarrassing that wearing a gag can cause them to drool so profusely, a lot of doms and sadists actually get off on seeing that uncontrollable flow of spit and the feelings of (consensual) humiliation and vulnerability it can evoke in a sub. Many of the dominants I’ve dated have been into seeing their partners gagged, too. And gags integrate nicely into some kinky roleplays, especially if you’re into edgy, “ consensual non-consent” themes like kidnapping and torture. I also like having something to bite down on while receiving pain, such as a spanking or some wax play, because it helps me process the sensations without getting overwhelmed by them. As a submissive-leaning person, I like feeling helpless and controlled by my partner, both feelings that are easy to access when I’m not able to speak. The spirit was willing, but the body was weak!īut I’ve been determined to find a gag that would work for me, because there are still lots that I find hot about the idea of wearing one. On top of that, I enjoy giving oral sex, so it was a bummer to have no stamina left in my jaw muscles after the gag had been removed. I’ve owned a few gags - including a Zalo one that looks like a red rose and is quite possibly the prettiest ball gag in existence - and have always found that my jaw would start aching so intensely after just a few minutes that it made it hard for me to focus on anything else. Until recently, wearing a gag was one of those kinks that I just liked better in my head than in the real world. Sex standing up in high heels? Hot - until I remember that I can barely walk in high heels, let alone keep my balance while being rhythmically rammed. Having my armpits worshiped? Hot - until I remember that I’ll have to skip deodorant that day. Sex in public? Hot - until I remember that there are people in public. Much to my chagrin, there are many kinks that I enjoy more in fantasy than in reality.
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